My two cents on love.
Love....well i have been hearing this word a lot these days specially after posting my last poem.I even had few email exchanges with a blogging buddy(knownstranger) and chatted with few friends on same topic.So finally thought i should write what love actually means to me.
Well...my defination of love is not something what you hear everyday...its not even that idealistic or heavenly but based on my practical(what else can you expect from an IITian)observations and experiences.According to me,there is no one love,but a person falls in love hundreds of time in his entire life.Yes there is nothing like permanent love,which lasts forever.
So how do some people stays together and loves each other forever?
The trick to what we call true love is being able to fall for the same person again and again in your life.This is what differentiate true love from mere infatuations or crushes.
The sadest part is that most people take this form of attractions as true love and ends up commiting to a wrong person.And as a result,one day they wake up and realize that the love is suddenly gone and ends up hurting others and themself.Trust me you can fall for a wrong person once,twice or thrice but its impossible to fall for him/her again and again each and every time,every day of your life.For that you need someone special.
Now comming to the age old question...how do i know i am ready for a commitment??
Well Just take a look at that person,knowing all good and bad things about him/her and ask yourself,will i be able to fall for him/her again and again,each and everyday of my life or even for a large part of my life.Or even better,will he/she be able to make me fall for him/her everyday of my life.And your heart will know exactly what to do.
I remember watching a movie called "50 first dates" in which drew barrymore had a disease where she forgets Adam sandler every new day....and Adam sandler tries new things everyday just to make her fall for him again.It was so lovely.I Just wish all people of this world assumes that their soulmate has same disease and make him/her fall in love everyday,have every touch as first touch and every kiss as their first kiss.I know it sounds a bit tooo idealistic...but hey i am a dreamer :):):)
posted by coolvir at 12:11 PM
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Me first again.
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Hey forgot to write my name.anyways me second also;)
Lovely thoughts on love.Its so practical yet so romantic and simple..make him fall in love again and again..really sweet thoughts.i will always remember this one and will try to follow it.
also i think you already know that movie is one of mine fav too.
tanya
@tanya
Hey thanks....waise is there any movie in this planet which you didn't liked :d :d :d
And yes do try to follow it...agar it doesnot work then go back to the old seduction tactics that we learned from....you know whom ;);)
voww interesting!
Hmmmmmmm........
Nietzsche comments very strangely about love in his major work 'Beyond Good & Evil'.
Two of his statements are very strange & mysterious :
1). Love of one is barbarism;for it is exercised at the expense of all others. The love of god too.
2). Anything done in love always occurs beyond good & evil.
What do you think about these statements of his???
To me anything selfish cannot be called as Love......so loving at the expense of other is in itself an oxymoronish sentence.
Again the word 'selfish' above is a very tricky word.It changes from person to person and i'll not go into a detail defination of selfishness according to me(will need another post ;)).
Now as far as second statement is concerned,i already mentioned for me love is a simple feeling...a practical thing and so would say that Nietzsche(who ever that dude was)has never understood love and is desperatly trying to complicate something as simple as love.
Love is anything but complicated...
very true yaar....
thtz what makes it click...falling in love again and again wid the same person... :)
very close to sthg i read in ToI sometime back!
and i think, if we jus sit back and analyse our relationships this is exactly what keeps them lively and everlasting!!! :)
I watched that movie too Vir...was a fantastic story :)
**According to me,there is no one love,but a person falls in love hundreds of time in his entire life.
Keshi is proof for that lol!
**Yes there is nothing like permanent love,which lasts forever.
hmmm Im not so sure abt that...but I know I can love someone forever...just that I havent been loved that way doesnt mean I wont either...u know wut I mean?
Anyways ur right...falling in love again n again with the same person..even after many years..even after sickness or old-age..well that's true love. U made a great point there.
Seems like we r ready for some full-on committment ha? ;-)
btw tnxx for the compliments...I have more recent pics of me in my recent post FEEL...check it out if u want :)
Hugggggggz Vir!
Keshi.
@happynehz
I am glad you also agree with me on this regard....i thought otherwise :)
@keshi
****Keshi is proof for that lol!
Hahahaha....so i am not alone ;)
****Seems like we r ready for some full-on committment ha?
And i would have tried my luck by askin you out(and then spoiling it all latter again ;))....but australia is a bit tooo far...just wish you were in new-zealand :d:d
Will definately check out your pics :)
love hmmm saby will be right person to tell it
thought otherwise??
Well love is such an amazing feeling.i Will just add that
"Love reinvents itself, multiplies itself, opens itself , and even devastates"
@known stranger
Saby "the love guru" ....lolz....
Will try to get his expert advice;)
@happynehz
Yeah...just felt you would not suscribe to this fallin in love again and again thingie and would be that "One Love" kinda person.
Remember Neha===Nice girl ;)
Nothing as such...just felt that way.
@chin2
Nice to see you after soo long...and on a funny note...i got a mail from one of my buddy...she after reading this said that the whole post could have been written in just one line:
"Love can neither be created nor be destroyed...it can only be transfered from one GF/BF to another"
LOLzzzz...... Yeah whatever lady :)
i m still a 'one love' person...
i meant i believe in falling in love again and again...but with the 'same person'...
at the same time, if the first love has not been the lifetime types, i dont see any reason to be stuck up at the same point and not move ahead and find a new love...
@happynehz
So many disclaimers ;)
Just kiddin.... :):):)
:)
thts just so sweet... makes it sound so perfect... do u think its love or attachment that really makes ppl stick together...
sounds very romantic though.. falling in love with the same person over and over again!!
iv seen tht movie too.. was really nice..
@happynehz
:)
@neha(non-happy??...just kiddin;))
*****do u think its love or attachment that really makes ppl stick together...
I do...i really do..i know that right at this moment you or anyother person can give me thousands of examples to prove me wrong...but i still do believe its Love that makes ppl stick together :):):)
I completely agree...Beautifully written..
Awesome! seriously...
@vashi
Hey thanks for agreeing :):)
You know you are really a nice person.I am sorry i never understood you.Sorry for everything and i really mean it this time.
Hey Coolveer... Great thoughts in small words..
smiles!
Asha!
@anon(first one)
:)
Shit happens :):):)
@Asha
Nice to hear from you after sooo long :)
vir cool vir. even i dont understand what i wrote. so dont strain da. some times i write some crap and i am just wondering what i have written ha h ah aha
Nice description of love!!
@knownstranger
Thanks for being on my side....now i am starting to understand the real meaning of your name :)
@gaurav
Thanks:)
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